6 week Parenting Starter Class (Online)

6 week Parenting Starter Class (Online)

Starting online – Thursday 22 April 2021 “This course has been unbelievable, life changing. I wish everyone would have the chance to do this” “The difference between me at the beginning of this course and me now is NIGHT and DAY!” Full information and booking here >> Join me to connect with other parents like you, work on the specific challenges you face in your family, gain guidance and support. >>> You’ll be part of a weekly class where you’ll get to connect with like minded parents, learn a cutting-edge, progressive approach to parenting and receive emotional support for the worries and regrets you carry as a parent. >>> Access all online starter class video content to work through in your own time. This is the course from our amazing Founder Patty Wipfler, who gives a unique transmission of the approach.  You’ll get to keep this for 6 months. It’s a great way to consolidate your learning and share with your partner/co-parent/family.    Meet Roma for an introduction to the Parenting Starter Class    During this 6 week course you will discover how to… Set up support for yourself that allows you to make changes in the automatic parenting responses you wish you didn’t have Say the magic words that allow your child to feel connected and valued Understand your child’s emotions and what they are really asking for; crying, tantrums and how you can respond to them Set clear, effective limits with warmth Change rigid, unworkable, maddening behaviours Help an angry child become playful and compassionate Work on any issues around sleep/food/separation/school/siblings/aggression and more   Here’s what other parents said about this course: “It...
Why does my kid lose it when we are having the loveliest time?

Why does my kid lose it when we are having the loveliest time?

Hi from the beautiful sun drenched Algarve, where I have made an impromptu winter escape with my two kids. They are having a delightful time, splashing in rock pools, running about my aunt’s gorgeous villa, loving each other and… crying a LOT! This afternoon after a sweet morning of Special Time we set out for another adventure at the much adored local beach. Except my daughter did not set out; she stood naked outside the front door refusing to wear clothes, get into her buggy or walk with us. “I’m cold, I’m cold, I won’t go to the beach” she wailed on repeat. I listened “I hear you, I’m sorry you don’t like our plan right now.” And I listened. And about 40 minutes went by, by which point her brother was running out of patience. Now she was howling “I want a different Tshirt” and I was reminding her that the one on offer was just fine. “I’m dying of boredom, I don’t even want to go anymore” now my son was sobbing too. I was fairly under-resourced and getting fed up by this point and vented to no-one in particular “I’m just trying to take you guys for a picnic on the beach, nothing horrible ya know!” And then the penny dropped. Spoiled Outing Syndrome. That is the technical term at Hand in Hand Parenting for this kind of phenomenon where you are having a lovely time and your kid loses it for no apparent reason. And sure enough, the wailing about the Tshirt progressed into a quiet “If Daddy were here, you could take Zephyr to...
Why African babies REALLY don’t cry… and why Western ones might need to!

Why African babies REALLY don’t cry… and why Western ones might need to!

*******This is a response to a previous article by a Kenyan author. I appreciate that Africa is a vast and diverse continent and that it is not appropriate to generalise. By using the term ‘African babies’ I am referencing and responding to Claire Niala’s description of parenting practices in Kenya.******* I read the original article ‘Why African Babies Don’t Cry’ some years ago and loved it. I even told folks about this article as a Breastfeeding Counsellor and had it linked on my website for some time. Yes! I thought, all babies need is for us to respond to them. And they do undoubtedly need that. There is still a very predominant cultural throwback to the Victorian era when it comes to parenting, which does not encourage responding to babies’ needs for fear of making them too dependent. This has thankfully been debunked by developments in recent neuroscience, however the paradigm shift will take some time. So I’m glad that someone is fighting the corner for babies. And, what I’ve discovered more recently is that quite likely, our babies DO need to cry sometimes. Now just to be clear, let me define exactly what I mean by this. Ideally, just like ‘African babies’, babies from anywhere else would get fed and held and their toileting needs responded to before they even need to cry. However, ONLY when these needs are all met it may be totally justified and even beneficial if they still cry. *** Edited to add – some babies may be crying due to undiagnosed medical conditions and these of course need to be addressed. *** Crying...