Help your child prepare for school

Help your child prepare for school

We’re really lucky that our daughter is getting the opportunity to start processing her feelings about starting Reception in September each time we drop her brother off at the school. Last week she started crying as we were leaving his classroom under the pretext of wanting me to pick her up. I was unhurried and relaxed in the warm sun and felt able to Staylisten.
“I’m not going to pick you up Sweetheart, you can walk just fine.”
She wailed that she couldn’t walk, her feet were cold, she needed me to carry her. I gave her my full focus and warmth and said simple things like
“You wanted me to carry you.”
I was worried the noise might disturb the classroom, so I scooped her into a corner of the playground and sat by her as she flailed and screamed on the ground. She was still crying about her feet being cold. Then she said quietly
“Anyway, the teachers in my class aren’t nice.”
I love that she was able to now work on the real upset. I responded that it is a big school with lots of new children and teachers and every time I said that it allowed her to sob heartily. She has been really excited and positive about starting this school so I know that these were feelings of fear moving through. She was able to offload all her doubt about not knowing where to go and not knowing the other kids. Then as the feelings died down she needed another pretext to keep offloading about. She became fixated with the play equipment that was fenced off and repeated
“There’s nothing even wrong with it, why is it closed?”
After about 20 minutes of crying she stood up and took my hand and said
“Come on mum let’s go see the park near my school.”

If you want to know how you can use some of the Hand in Hand tools to help your child prepare for starting nursery, or reception, or even secondary school, come to my FREE parenting talk on July 6th on Smooth School Transitions at Freshford Community Shop 9.15-10.30pm

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